A Bad Habit that Causes Anxiety
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Step 1. Select Which Type of Anxiety You Suffer With
There are many habits anxious people do that can provide immediate relief. But these often only provide short-term relief, in the long-run they reinforce anxiety and worry. One of these habits includes seeking reassurance. For example…
If you worry about your health a lot you may continually go to your doctors, even though he’s already given you the all- clear. Or if you continually worry about your partner getting involved in an accident you may end up phoning them every hour, just to make sure. Perhaps you have to buy something but you’re worried you might buy the wrong one. You spend hours and hours on the internet seeking out the best solution, trying to get assurance that you’re buying the right one.
Before long, seeking reassurance becomes a crutch which you keep using over and over again, preventing you from ever being able to deal with worry feelings properly. It becomes a bit like a drug… “Just a little bit of reassurance and I’ll be ok in minute.”
Another problem with this behavior is we all tend to interpret information and advice in a way that supports our pre- existing beliefs. Sooner or later you begin to doubt the reassurances and need to find more assurances from other sources. By learning not to depend on reassurances you learn a healthier way of handling your anxiety…
First you need to become aware of any reassurance seeking behaviors. When you have identified these behaviors create a new ones. For example…
Old: Going to the doctor’s every week to see if I’m still healthy. New: Limit check-ups to an amount of time that your doctor recommends, and only go to the doctor’s when you have genuine concern, i.e. a real symptom.
Old: Spending hours of research before buying something. New: Give yourself a set amount of time to decide, then make a decision and stick with it.
By learning to stop always seeking reassurance not only do you start to undo the automatic cycle of anxiety, but you also learn that you can cope just fine without the need for constant assurance. This in turn creates a sense of self-confidence and self-esteem, which are two other vital ingredient for overcoming anxiety.
2 Responses to “A Bad Habit that Causes Anxiety”
John Broome said on February 8, 2009:
I’m always doing this. I’m going to try and stop now. Thanks.
kevin ward said on July 20, 2010:
I’m 49 year old male and I’ve suffered anxiety for as long as I can remember,the result is a failed marriage of 18 years and many other broken relationships,in fact I’m going through one right now and my anxiety is ruling my life,my recent breakup is I believe not entirely finished as she still wants me and says she loves me, if I can manage to control my condition I may have a better chance as I think she can see my anxiety constantly by way of mood swings and saying things the wrong way and not meaning what I’m saying,she tells me this all the time,even if I call A cardigan a jumper she corrects me and if i say “you know what i mean” she gets annoyed same if i get a persons name slightly wrong she will correct me with annoyance.
I think this is my anxiety working and trying to move too quickly ahead,hope you understand.
I’ve have recently been seeking reassurance from her sisters but I feel I’m making a pest and fool of myself.
Can you please help as I’m beside myself and desperate.
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